We can learn to dance in a seamless flow between two partners – pleasure and pain – embracing both, yet clinging to neither. Going with the flow is like staying attuned to a background musical rhythm. When this rhythm changes we change with it; we stay attuned even if our external circumstances alter. When the dance of pleasure ends (as it will) we must bow gracefully and let it go. When the dance of sorrow comes, we must accept its offer instead of sitting it out resentfully, waiting for a happier dance to come along. Instead of contracting ourselves rigidly against sorrow and pain, we begin to surrender to it. When we do this, we discover we are moving in harmony with a source transcending both pleasure and pain.
– Martina Lehane Sheehan